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"I found parts of me long forgotten and utterly lost and rekindled the fire inside of me." Craig
for when the call returns
There comes a time after every initiation when the call returns. The retreat ends, and life begins to test what you found. Months, maybe years have passed. You walked through Level 1, stood in the fire of Level 2. For a while, you carried the work with strength and presence.
But slowly, life crept back in. The discipline slipped. The edges softened. Old patterns resurfaced - in your relationships, your family, your leadership. The shadow whispers again: Have you truly integrated what you discovered? Are you going to let this continue to cause dysfunction in your life? Because what’s at risk if you don’t face these parts? Just about everything you can imagine, and most importantly… yourself.
Shadow Sessions: The Return is for the men who know they’ve drifted. Who can feel the old habits leaking through. Who sense there’s still work to be done, deeper pieces to face, deeper truth to embody.
These sessions have been structured to run throughout the year, creating an ongoing rhythm for initiated men to return to themselves - to the fire, to face the red buttons (the emotional triggers that still set you off, the wounds that haven’t yet healed and the patterns that keep repeating) This is an opportunity for you to meet your edges, and reclaim what was left unfinished.
Because the work doesn’t end when the retreat does - it’s continuous. It’s the path of the man committed to living in truth.
LIFE HAS CREPT BACK IN
the work is calling you back
Shadow Sessions: The Return is a one-day immersion for men who have already walked through the gates with us — men who know the power of this work and are ready to go deeper.
Held at The Lighthouse in Fulham, our sacred home for our London men’s circles, this intimate container offers a rare opportunity to participate in deep life changing process work (The Gauntlet) and bring light to what still hides in the dark.
This is not an introduction. It’s an invitation to deepen.
"something all men should experience."
Ross Kemp
Sky Broadcasting
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work closely with alexander
Throughout the day, you will be guided directly by Alexander Cottle, founder of The Unmasked Man.
This is a unique opportunity to work closely with Alexander in a small, powerful setting and to experience the precision and depth of his facilitation as he leads live process work and shadow integration with each man.
You will be held in a space of fierce compassion, where truth is spoken, emotion is welcomed, and transformation becomes tangible.
"If you want to change your life you come to the unmasked man." Liam
TESTIMONIALS
What to Expect
This will be a small group of committed initiated men - those devoted to continued growth and truth.
The day will centre around Process Work: powerful somatic, emotional, and relational practices that cut through story and reach the core of what’s alive in you right now.
You will be guided into:
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Deep emotional release and shadow integration
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Live facilitation and 1:1 process work
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Grounding, embodiment, and integration practices
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Honest sharing and authentic brotherhood
No masks. No hiding. Just truth.
"I found parts of me long forgotten and utterly lost and rekindled the fire inside of me." Craig
who is this for
Prerequisite: This day is for the man who has already attended our LVL1/LVL2 Retreats or Trainings. who knows the power of our work… and yet finds himself drifting back into the shadows.
It’s for you if:
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You’ve stopped keeping up with the work. You left the retreat clear and committed - then life got loud. Practices slipped. The morning breath, the journalling, the conversations with your partner… faded.
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Old patterns are knocking again. Numbness. Overwhelm. The “Nice Guy” reappearing in the mirror. People-pleasing, porn, scrolling, overworking, suppressed anger resurfacing, micro-lies, avoidance - the familiar loop.
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Your relationships are calling you up. You notice distance with your partner or your kids. You avoid difficult truths. You feel the weight of unspoken words.
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You’re out of alignment with the man you said you’d be. You can feel the gap between your values and your behaviour. Integrity frays at the edges.
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Leadership has stalled. You have vision, but procrastination, fear, or self-sabotage blocks action.
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Isolation has crept in. You pulled away from brotherhood, thinking you could “do it alone,” and now you’re paying the price.
This is for the man who knows the medicine works and is ready to return to it. For the man who understands he doesn’t need more information; he needs a container that demands truth, feeling, and follow-through.
WHAT TO BRING
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A willingness to be seen, especially where you’d rather hide.
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A clear thread you’re ready to work (anger, shame, addiction, father-wound, sabotage in love/work).
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Courage to step into live facilitation and let the body speak what the mind has been managing.
What You’ll Receive
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Each man will have an opportunity to work through one indvidual process. One key piece of work still crippling them or dictating their life.
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The strength of a small, initiated circle that won’t collude with your story.
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Direct, precise process work with Alexander to meet the root, not the symptom.
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Nutritious lunch, connection and brotherhood
If you’ve felt yourself slipping back into the old costume, this is your recall to the path. Not as punishment, but as devotion. A day to realign with your values, clean the lens, and recommit to the man your life, your partner, your family, and your mission are asking you to be.
"I became a better partner, friend, and son." Jamie
meet your teacher
Alexander Cottle
Alexander Cottle
FOUNDER, COACH & LEAD FACILITATOR
Alexander Cottle is a leading voice in modern men’s work and the founder of The Unmasked Man. Known for his embodied, heart-led approach, he brings together over a decade of experience in somatic shadow work, Eastern philosophy, counselling, yoga, and meditation. His work is rooted in helping men move from the mind into the heart - from performance into presence.
Alexander specialises in teaching the embodied side of shadow work, guiding men to meet and integrate the parts of themselves they’ve hidden, suppressed, or feared. Through his grounded, compassionate facilitation, he’s supported hundreds of men to release shame, reclaim their power, and step into mature masculinity.
He is recognised for the depth and safety he creates - spaces where men can unravel, remember, and rebuild. His work is not about surface-level change. It’s about deep, embodied transformation that stays with you for life.
"Life-changing on so many levels, from how I view and treat myself to how I view and treat others." Alejandro
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