
step into leadership
become a men's work facilitator
With the Unmasked Man
STARTS 12th OCT 2026
AN 8 MONTH JOURNEY
There is a leader inside you that you were born to be. A man who carries wisdom in his bones, fire in his belly, and truth in his voice.
If you’ve felt that quiet ache that whispers, “There’s more in me,” you’re not alone.
The world is starved of embodied male leadership - the kind that stands rooted in integrity, speaks from the heart, and holds space like a mountain. This training isn’t just about learning to lead others. It’s about remembering how to lead yourself, fully and without apology.
If you’ve felt the call, deep in your bones, to rise… this is where it begins.
This is an 8-month, multi-layered training program designed to support you on your journey to becoming a certified men’s work facilitator.
The training is a comprehensive journey that includes:
A 5-Day In-Person Intensive to begin our journey.
(Starts 12th-16th October 2026)
A 4-Day In-Person Facilitation Deeper Dive to continue the practical and theory-based training. (March 11th – 14th 2027)
A 3-Day In-Person Graduation Retreat and initiation rites of passage to complete our journey.
(4th -6th June 2027)
An 8-Month Online Group Training Container for deep learning and integration.
(October 2026 - June 2027)
LIVE ZOOM CALL ONLINE SCHEDULE
2026
Live Zoom Calls (7:00pm - 9:30pm)
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Wednesday, 28th October 2026
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Wednesday, 4th November 2026
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Wednesday, 11th November 2026
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Wednesday, 18th November 2026
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Wednesday, 25th November 2026
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Wednesday, 2nd December 2026
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Wednesday, 9th December 2026
2027
Live Zoom Calls (7:00pm - 9:30pm)
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Wednesday, 20th January 2027
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Wednesday, 3rd February 2027
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Wednesday, 17th February 2027
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Wednesday, 24th March 2027
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Wednesday, 7th April 2027
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Wednesday, 21st April 2027
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Wednesday, 12th May 2027
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Wednesday, 26th May 2027


Alexander Cottle
“The greatest leaders call forth the leader within others.”
the current reality
For the modern day Man
There is a men’s mental health crisis, 75% of suicides in the U.K. are by men. For too long, outdated beliefs have suggested that men shouldn’t cry, feel, or show emotion - leading countless men to feel isolated, depressed, and lost. Many bury their emotions deep down, turning their pain inward, which has contributed to issues with addiction, substance abuse, and self-destructive behaviours. Many are like walking time bombs, lost in an uninitiated world that doesn’t support them. The absence of father figures and healthy elder role models has only deepened this crisis.
As Henry Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” In today’s world, this quote resonates more than ever. But by becoming a men’s work facilitator, you have the opportunity to help men turn their lives around, guiding them toward authentic connection and healing. Whether through community circles, workshops at festivals, or dedicated retreats, facilitators can create the spaces where men find hope, support, and lasting change.

what makes a good facilitator?
According to the Unmkased Man
A skilled facilitator holds the line between grounded strength and deep sensitivity. He knows when to step forward with presence and when to step back and let silence do the work. He doesn’t rescue men from their process. He trusts them to meet it.
He holds the line between clarity and compassion and he owns his power without needing to prove it. He knows when to speak and when to let stillness land deeper than words. He doesn't shrink, and he doesn’t perform. He empowers rather than fixes. He challenges without shaming.
He mirrors without projecting. His leadership isn't loud, it's felt.
He is confident in his voice, not to perform, but to serve. He reads the room. Feels the energy. Responds to what’s alive. His words are clean. His leadership is precise. He doesn’t need control - he brings coherence.
He has met his own shadows and continues to meet them. He knows the voice of ego and chooses, again and again, to lead from a deeper place. When he enters space, it’s not to be seen, it’s to hold others in their becoming.
He trusts his intuition more than the plan. He knows the medicine often lives in the unexpected. His power lives in his body, not just in his words.
He’s devoted to nervous system regulation and embodied practice. When others spiral, he stays anchored. His groundedness becomes the safety men lean into.
And above all, a true facilitator walks with humility. He does not stand above the men he guides,
he walks beside them. Shoulder to shoulder.
In the work. In the fire. In service.
TESTIMONIALS

why become a men's work facilitator?
Our society is calling for male role models who embody healthy masculine virtues.
The Unmasked Man has created this facilitator training program to equip men not only with these teachings but also with the skills to guide others on journeys of healing, growth, and transformation.
For some, participating in retreats may feel like enough, with no immediate urge to step into a leadership role within men’s work. Yet for others, there is a powerful calling to lead and facilitate the same transformational work that has profoundly shaped their own lives.
The Unmasked Man envisions men’s work rising globally, much like the waves of meditation, cold water therapy, and yoga. Men’s work stands on the edge, ready to to erupt on to the world stage. If there was ever a time when this work was needed, it is now.
There are men - and perhaps you are one of them - who feel inspired to lead on this journey.
about the training
Become a Men's Work Faclitator
This training is designed to support you in stepping into embodied leadership.
To stop denying your power. To stop apologising for having strength.
This is the call to action you’ve been waiting for, a place to challenge the doubt, own your voice, and rise into the man you were born to be.
As a facilitator, your role is to create a safe, grounded space where other men feel secure enough to explore their inner world, fully, truthfully, and without shame.
On this journey, you’ll expand your awareness, sharpen your skills, and receive powerful insights that will deepen the way you lead, hold space, and serve.
At The Unmasked Man, we know that every man builds protective layers around his deepest wounds. We call this the Safety Officer, the part that keeps you guarded, distant, and in control. This is also the part that has stopped your growth, limited your potential, and kept you playing small.
In this training, you’ll learn how to meet that defence - not only in yourself, but in others and lead from a place rooted in the four masculine archetypes: the King, who brings vision and integrity; the Warrior, who brings action and discipline; the Lover, who brings empathy and connection; and the Magician, who brings wisdom and insight.
Spaceholding is an art. It’s not just about listening, it’s about attuning to what’s beneath the surface: body language, emotional charge, subtle shifts in energy.
You’ll learn how to listen on every level, to create containers that allow for real, lasting transformation.
This training blends deep theory with practical experience - giving you the tools, language, and embodied understanding to lead powerful men’s work with clarity and integrity.
And upon completion, you’ll be certified as a Men’s Work Facilitator, ready to support men in the world with confidence, heart, and truth.

the modules
Become a Men's Work Faclitator
5-DAY FACILITATOR TRAINING IMMERSION
This five-day intimate immersion will dive into essential topics such as sharing circle dynamics, emotional process work, and the art of reading the room to pick up on subtle cues.
Creating a profoundly transformative, well-structured and professional container involves many layers. We will explore how to effectively awaken a man’s senses through the subtle management of lighting, smell, music, texture and taste.
8 MONTH ONLINE GROUP TRAINING
These 2.5hr online sessions (15 calls total) extend the learning from the five-day immersion, offering a deeper educational container. We will have the opportunity to deepen the work together through in depth teaching sessions, practising techniques, and provide reflective feedback to support each participant’s growth.
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800+ Page Manual
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Weekly homework and study requirements*
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Call to action and weekly task setting and questions
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Question & answer time
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Goal-oriented integration support
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Weekly WhatsApp support group
*Please note: a minimum pass rate is required to receive the certification of completion for this facilitator training. We will take a short break over the festive period, and an 85% online attendance is mandatory.
4-DAY RESIDENTIAL IMMERSION CONTINUED
This four-day immersion builds on our initial five-day program, offering participants further hands-on experience in facilitating men’s emotional journeys. We’ll dive even deeper into the practical skills of facilitation, exploring how to intuitively guide a man through his emotions with confidence and care.
3-DAY RESIDENTIAL GRADUATION & COMPLETION RETREAT
This gathering is an invitation for our newly initiated men’s work facilitators to come together to feast and celebrate and support each other as we embark on the next steps of our individual and collective journeys.
We are here to lift each other up and bless each man for the amazing work that has been completed on the path.
We will continue our in-person journey, culminating in a sacred initiation and rite of passage. Together we’ll bring a grounded and meaningful close to our container - through fire, music, song, and shared feasts, we’ll celebrate the bonds of brotherhood and the depth of our connection.
Strangers we began and life long friends we have become…
We will celebrate the conclusion of the 8 month journey and rejoice in your certification as a Men's Work Facilitator.
ADDITIONAL EXTRAS
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Printed training manuals, including an 800 + Page Manual
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Reading Lists
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Accountability & triggers scripts
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Access to our educational video resource
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Coaching scripts and questionnaires
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Men's work facilitator training certificate
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The Unmasked Man Merchandise Pack (T-shirt & hoody)
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Connection with a growing global network of men

what you will learn
History of Men's Work
Gain insights into the historical context of men's work, examining its evolution and the societal factors that have shaped it. This understanding helps facilitators connect with the roots of their work and its relevance in contemporary society.
Predicament of Man
Explore the historical and cultural challenges faced by men, including concepts of war and the impact the warrior archetype has had and how to regain the balance within and in society.
Boy Psychology vs. Man Psychology
Explore the developmental psychology of boys and men, understanding the characteristics and challenges that distinguish boy psychology (e.g., dependency, insecurity) from man psychology (e.g., responsibility, groundedness). This distinction helps facilitators guide participants toward more mature, resilient expressions of masculinity.
Archetypal Process Dynamics & Their Shadows
Gain insight into archetypal energies, such as the Lover, Warrior, Magician, and King, and learn about the shadows each archetype can possess (e.g., the Warrior’s shadow as aggression or the Lover’s shadow as dependence). Understanding these dynamics allows facilitators to work with men to embrace empowering qualities while recognizing and integrating shadow aspects.
Somatic Work and Learning the Signs of the Body
Somatic work focuses on the body to access and release emotions or stored trauma. Learn somatic techniques and attunement to the language of the body - such as muscle tension, changes in breath, and posture shifts, to support participants in accessing and releasing emotion.
Emotional Storage in the Body
Learn where emotions are held in the body, understanding the connections between specific organs and emotional experiences. This knowledge allows facilitators to guide participants in releasing, pinpointing and processing emotions safely and effectively.
Body Awareness
Cultivate a deep awareness of the body and its parasympathetic and sympathetic responses. This knowledge not only aids facilitators in maintaining their own emotional regulation but also helps them support participants in recognizing and managing their bodily responses during emotional work.
Understanding the Chakra System
Dive into the chakra system, exploring how each chakra relates to archetypal formats.
Window of Tolerance
Understand the window of tolerance - the optimal zone of arousal for processing emotions. Learn to recognize when individuals are within their window or experiencing hyper- or hypo-arousal, allowing you to adjust your support accordingly.
Understanding Trauma - Big T & Little T
Dive into the topic of trauma, distinguishing between Big T trauma (severe events like abuse or accidents) and Little T trauma (everyday stressors or smaller emotional wounds). This knowledge equips facilitators to approach participants with sensitivity and awareness, recognizing the unique ways trauma can affect each individual.
Generational Trauma
Delve into the concept of generational trauma and its impact on men's mental and emotional health. Understanding how trauma can be passed down through generations allows facilitators to grow themselves and address these issues sensitively and effectively.
Safeguarding & Signposting
Learn essential safeguarding practices to create a safe environment, including understanding boundaries, recognizing signs of distress, and knowing when to guide individuals to additional professional support through signposting to external resources, such as mental health professionals.
Practical Interactive Workshops and Techniques
Engage in practical, hands-on workshops designed to teach specific techniques for men’s work facilitation, from leading sharing circles to emotional processes. These interactive sessions provide direct experience and real-time feedback, helping facilitators refine their skills and develop effective methods to support group dynamics and individual growth.
Leadership Styles
Explore different leadership styles - leading from ego, mind, heart, or soul. This insight helps facilitators recognize their own leadership tendencies and adapt their approach to create the most integral environment.
Compassionate Exhaustion
Understand the concept of compassionate exhaustion, when facilitators give too much of themselves. Learn strategies to recognise the signs, manage energy levels, and practice self-care to ensure sustained effectiveness in supporting others.
Projection and Triggers
Explore how personal projections and triggers can influence group dynamics. By knowing these concepts and yourself intimately, facilitators can create a safer space for vulnerability and healing, minimizing the impact of their own personal experiences on the group.
Accountability
By cultivating a culture of radical self responsibility, facilitators are empowered to take ownership of their healing journeys and show up as the best man they can be.
who is this training for?
This journey is for the man who feels a deep call to lead. It is for the man who has done his own work and is now ready to hold space for others, guiding them through the same fire that has forged him. It is for men who are ready to rise in service to a healthier, more embodied masculinity.
This training is for:
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Current facilitators looking to deepen their skills and gain a certified qualification.
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Future facilitators who know they are meant to lead this work.
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Fathers and sons who want to break generational patterns.
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Managers, coaches, and leaders who want to bring more heart and integrity to their work.
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Men who want to change the world by sharing this important work from a place of authenticity.
Required Pre-requisites:
Completion of The Unmasked Man Level 1 or Level 2, OR a minimum of one year's consistent experience in the men's work field.
commitment
The next journey begins in October 2026
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5 Day in person intensive (12th -16th Oct 2026)
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8 Month online group Training - 2.5hr group training calls (15 total, please see call schedule)
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4 Day intensive (11th-14th March Mar 2027)
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3 Day graduation & certification ceremony (4th - 6th June 2027)
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All food and accommodation is included
*This training is limited to 22 men only
meet your teacher
Alexander Cottle

FOUNDER, COACH & LEAD FACILITATOR
Alexander Cottle
Alexander Cottle is a leading voice in modern men’s work and the founder of The Unmasked Man. Known for his embodied, heart-led approach, he brings together over a decade of experience in somatic shadow work, Eastern philosophy, counselling, yoga, and meditation. His work is rooted in helping men move from the mind into the heart - from performance into presence.
Alexander specialises in teaching the embodied side of shadow work, guiding men to meet and integrate the parts of themselves they’ve hidden, suppressed, or feared. Through his grounded, compassionate facilitation, he’s supported hundreds of men to release shame, reclaim their power, and step into mature masculinity.
He is recognised for the depth and safety he creates - spaces where men can unravel, remember, and rebuild. His work is not about surface-level change. It’s about deep, embodied transformation that stays with you for life.
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