
Private coaching for men
With Alexander Cottle
I created this for the man who is done with incremental change.
This is the deepest level of support I offer - a personal, one-to-one journey for the man who is ready to rise into true leadership, embody his truth, and create a legacy that will outlive him.
Let me ask you a direct question: Are you going to leave this world with your potential still buried inside you? Or will you rise now?
Will you be the man who breaks the old cycles and creates a profound impact for his family, his community, and the world?
This personal journey is a transformational deep dive. Together, we will separate truth from story, confront your projections, and you will take full, unshakable ownership of your life. You will learn to step forward not with arrogance, but with a quiet, grounded clarity, courage, and purpose.
This journey is for you
if you are ready to...
Embody Your Truth
Learn to show up as your most authentic self, without apology, and speak from a place of grounded integrity in every area of your life.
Reclaim Your Power
Stop being a slave to your old stories and projections, taking full ownership of your life so you can act from a place of conscious choice, not unconscious reaction.
Deepen Your Connections
Show up with an open heart and your full, embodied presence for your partner, children, and family, creating the safety and intimacy you all deserve.
Create Your Legacy
Move beyond just living day-to-day and begin to consciously build a life of purpose, meaning, and service that will impact generations to come.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
it is that we are powerful beyond measure."
Marriane Wiliamson
Why This Work Goes Deeper
With me,Alexander Cottle
Most men try to change their lives at the surface, but the truth is, what’s keeping you stuck is deeper. It lives in your preconditioned beliefs, the trauma your body holds, and the fear responses that stop you from stepping forward.
This program is designed to dismantle those layers. This isn’t just about talking; it’s about going into the places you’ve avoided - the patterns you’ve repeated - and breaking through them. It’s about taking radical responsibility so you can rise with integrity and step into your true leadership.
Using a combination of Jungian Archetypal psychology and embodied, somatic practices, I will support you in confronting what’s been holding you back so you can finally live with purpose and power.
The transformation you can expect.
I will give you the tools to start acting from a place of emotional maturity, which will change every relationship in your life.
Your partner will feel it. Your children will benefit from your new, embodied presence. You will begin to experience more abundance, meaning, and purpose.
Ultimately, you will connect more deeply with yourself. This will allow you to remember, shape, and develop the gifts you are here to share with the world.

“There’s a man inside you
that the world is waiting to meet.”
Alexander Cottle
meet alexander
Your Coach & Mentor

FOUNDER, COACH & LEAD FACILITATOR
Alexander Cottle
Alexander Cottle is a leading voice in modern men’s work and the founder of The Unmasked Man. Known for his embodied, heart-led approach, he brings together over a decade of experience in somatic shadow work, Eastern philosophy, counselling, yoga, and meditation. His work is rooted in helping men move from the mind into the heart - from performance into presence.
Alexander specialises in teaching the embodied side of shadow work, guiding men to meet and integrate the parts of themselves they’ve hidden, suppressed, or feared. Through his grounded, compassionate facilitation, he’s supported hundreds of men to release shame, reclaim their power, and step into mature masculinity.
He is recognised for the depth and safety he creates - spaces where men can unravel, remember, and rebuild. His work is not about surface-level change. It’s about deep, embodied transformation that stays with you for life.

the four masculine archetypes
This coaching journey is built on the foundational map of the four masculine archetypes: King, Warrior, Lover, and Magician. Together, we will explore both their light and their shadow aspects to integrate your power.
THE ARCHETYPES EXPLAINED
How we work with them


THE WARRIOR
The Warrior is one of the most misunderstood energies. A true Warrior has discipline, clear boundaries, and acts with precision. Many men don't know how to access this energy in a healthy way.
Together, we will harness your Warrior, helping you channel anger into power and act decisively, confronting the shadows of the Sadist and the Masochist.
TESTIMONIALS
about this personal journey
With me,Alexander Cottle
Personal growth & transformation.
This is a deep and truthful process of self-discovery. It starts with you taking full accountability for your life. Together, we will look at what is holding you back from rising into your power. We will work through the blocks that are currently preventing you from living your purpose and giving your full expression to the world.
JOIN A BROTHERHOOD
You will be initiated into a growing global network of men who have walked this same path and are committed to this work.
INTEGRATING YOUR SHADOW
Your shadow is the part of you that holds everything you were taught to suppress as a child to be seen as ‘good’. In order to feel safe and loved, you may have pushed parts of yourself into this "shadow bag."
Once you understand how your shadow has been playing out in your life - perhaps keeping you small, causing you to leak anger, or keeping you in a cycle of people-pleasing - you can begin to create profound change.
Through this work, we will transform the deep subconscious patterns that are not your own. Shadow work provides the foundational structure to support your journey towards emotional maturity as you walk the Path of the King.

“You’ve been surviving. Now, live.”
Alexander Cottle
your Coaching journey
The Breakdown
MODULE 1: BUILDING YOUR FOUNDATION
First, we look at your foundation. We get clear on what makes you tick as a man and where your energy is leaking, so we can bring a conscious awareness to the patterns that are running your life.
Topics we will cover include:
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Your Hero's Journey: Understanding where you've been and where you are going.
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Daily Structure: Creating a morning practice ('Sadhana') that serves you.
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Taking Charge: Confronting addictions (porn, alcohol, neediness, etc.).
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The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome: Dismantling people-pleasing patterns and establishing your own needs.
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Core Wounds: Addressing the Father Wound and the Mother Wound.
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Deeper Connection: Developing effective listening skills to transform your relationships.
Module 2: Delving Deep Into Your Shadow
This phase is an in-depth analysis of the shadow and light sides of the four masculine archetypes. We will explore how these are playing out in your life and give you the tools to integrate them.
We will do a deep dive into:
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The Healthy & Shadow Lover (The Addicted & The Impotent Lover)
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The Healthy & Shadow Warrior (The Sadist & The Masochist)
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The Healthy & Shadow Magician (The Detached Manipulator & The Denying Innocent)
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The Healthy & Shadow King (The Tyrant & The Weakling)
We will also explore your relationship to sexuality, romantic love, and any pain or anger you hold towards the feminine.
Module 3: Leading a Life With Heart & Finding Your Voice
This final stage is about fully stepping into your power. It’s about owning your inner voice, leading with authentic energy, and becoming the man you were born to be.
We will focus on:
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Embodying Your Power: Facing your fears head-on, finding your truest voice, and realizing your inner power.
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The Path of Self-Mastery: Cultivating accountability, motivation, and discipline.
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Inner Work: Reparenting your inner child through compassion and self-love.
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Building Your Legacy: Clarifying your relationship to abundance and creating an impact that will last for generations.

"explore YOUR SHADOW"
Alexander Cottle
each journey includes
The Following
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One-to-One Coaching Calls: Personal sessions on Zoom with your coach. Each call is 60 minutes, with an additional 15 minutes if required. The calls will be bi-weekly - 12 sessions over 6 months or 24 sessions over 1 year, depending on your chosen package.
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Retreat/Retreats: Included in the coaching is attendance to our LVL 1 Retreat (6-month program) or LVL 1 & LVL 2 Retreats (1 year program)The deepest transformation happens when we combine somatic, embodied learning in-person with consistent coaching work online. This structure allows for reprogramming, accountability, and long-term integration. Please Note - I do not work exclusively online - it’s essential that you attend some of our in-person work throughout our time together. True life changing growth happens when we combine both the personal and the collective group work.
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Weekly Educational Materials: PDF booklets and accompanying educational videos to guide your journey.
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Direct Accountability Support: To ensure you stay committed to the work and your growth.
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Weekly Integration Tasks: Homework, questions, and objectives designed to encourage you to break through your comfort zone.
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Essential Reading List: A curated list of books to develop your studies and deepen your process.
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Weekly WhatsApp Support: Direct contact for guidance and support between your calls.
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Embodied Practices: A toolkit of meditation and breathing exercises and techniques.
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Sexual Energy Mastery: Direct support and guidance around non-ejaculation and harnessing your sexual energy.
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Global Brotherhood Connection: Access to a growing network of men who have walked this path.
accompanying pdf booklets & videos
commitment required
For your journey
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Bi Weekly Coaching Calls: A commitment to show up for your personal one-to-one coaching sessions each week at our mutually agreed time.
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Commitment to attend an in person LVL1 or LVL 2 - depending on your chosen package.
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Weekly Integration Work: A commitment to completing the designated homework, which includes booklets, videos, teachings, and assignments.
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Dedicated Personal Time: A commitment to dedicating the required hours to your personal development each week outside of our calls.
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A Daily Morning Practice: A commitment to establishing a morning practice, which will include journaling, reading, and working with your vision board.
Frequently asked questions
*PLEASE NOTE - 6 or 12 month Payment plans are available.









































