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"The transformation is so powerful that the people you love will feel the benefit of the man you become." Jamie
maintaining sovereignty
"More impactful than a decade of therapy, this single weekend will drastically change the way you see your life." Jessie Little
level 2: THE PATH OF THE KING
The Deeper Work
This is a four-day journey to understand the deeper parts of your masculine psyche. Where Level 1 helps you discover your King energy, Level 2 is about fully integrating it so that it nourishes you and the people around you.
While many men leave Level 1 feeling powerful and connected, maintaining that awareness in everyday life can be challenging. This is often because the wounded inner child is still unconsciously steering the ship, preventing the full embodiment of the King.
Is there a part of you that still feels ‘not good enough’, unmotivated, or reacts destructively to certain situations?
This is likely your wounded inner boy. This retreat is focused on integrating him, so you can truly walk the path of the King.
To do this, the retreat is carefully curated to help you gain clarity and healing within the four areas that cause many men the most pain:
The Mother Wound
The Father Wound
The Nice Guy
Sexuality & Shame
TESTIMONIALS
"The unmasked man has changed my life.
Please do this, you owe it to yourself.
You can't put a price on your health/wellbeing.
I've been empowered to be the man I should be, not the scared boy who was!"
Scott
"I went in a sceptic and left a more complete man. Wow, where to begin. I went in to the process with no expectations.
The process was incredibly well thought out, perfectly balanced and totally universal regardless of what you want to accomplish or focus on. I will walk away with life long friends. I have never done something I would recommend to this degree."
Frederick
“The best investment I’ve ever made.
Attending The Unmasked Man was life-changing.
I’ve faced fears I once ran from, and joy has returned to my life in ways I never thought possible.
I’m eternally grateful for the experience, the wisdom, and the transformation it’s gifted me.”
Dean
what we work with
the mother wound
Creating a healthy relationship with our mother is vital, even if she is no longer in our lives. A mother may have been emotionally distant, or she may have been overbearing and controlling, using her child to meet her own unmet needs.
Depending on our attachment, we may grow up creating power games with partners to gain control, or we may remain distant and fearful of deeper connection.
Robert Bly suggests that to be liberated from an unhealthy attachment, we must “steal the key from under our mother’s pillow,” thus severing the umbilical cord and unlocking our own unique power.
the father wound
“A man must love his father and yet be free of his father's expectations and criticisms in order to be a free man.” David Deida
Healing the relationship with our father is essential for our own masculine growth.
Perhaps your father was unable to show you the affection and emotional understanding you needed, or perhaps he rejected or abandoned you.
These wounds can still affect our lives today unless they are healed.
sexuality & SHAME
Childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, exposure to porn, and sexual wounding can deeply shape how we see our bodies and experience intimacy. For many men, this manifests as sexual shame, disconnection, body dysmorphia, performance anxiety, impotence, or difficulty feeling present and connected during sex.
Porn often becomes a substitute for real intimacy in a way to avoid pain, control vulnerability, or seek validation and yet it can deepen feelings of isolation and inadequacy.
It is profoundly liberating to realise you are not alone and that every man carries stories like these, and through bringing them into the light, we reclaim our power, truth, and capacity to heal.
the nice guy
Many men have the 'people-pleaser' complex. This is the man who creates covert contracts and needs to be liked, often stemming from a childhood wound of not feeling good enough.
This comes at the expense of his own well-being. By putting others first, he neglects himself, leading to weak boundaries and leaked anger towards his partner and family. He may become a doormat, continually 'friend-zoned' and walked over by others.
Here, we look at how developing the archetype of the Warrior can create the healthy boundaries and ability to speak your truth to remedy the grip of the Nice Guy.
"something all men should experience."
Ross Kemp
Sky Broadcasting
as seen on
the four masculine archetypes
The program will also weave in further teachings of the four great masculine archetypes — King, Warrior, Lover, and Magician.
the KING
warrior
lover
magician
THE ARCHETYPES EXPLAINED
How we work with them
THE WARRIOR
The Warrior is one of the most misunderstood energies. A true Warrior has discipline, clear boundaries, and acts with precision. Many men don't know how to access this energy in a healthy way.
Together, we will harness your Warrior, helping you channel anger into power and act decisively, confronting the shadows of the Sadist and the Masochist.
what you get
Our weekends have been likened to a decade of therapy. This isn't just a retreat to go through the motions; it's an opportunity for profound, life-changing growth. Here is what you will receive:
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A guided journey into the deeper layers of the masculine psyche.
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Life-changing Transformational Workshops focused on the core wounds.
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Somatic shadow work & inner child healing.
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Tools to continue your integration when you leave.
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Meditation, breath-work & movement sessions.
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Cold water therapy immersion.
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A follow-up group integration call to support you after the retreat.
Accommodation & Amenities:
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4 Days, 3 nights accommodation (Arrive 2pm Thursday, depart 5pm Sunday).
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Delicious meals each day.
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Shared accommodation.
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Extras including: a wood-fired sauna, hot tub, and indoor swimming pool.
Please note this is a drug and alcohol-free space.
this is for you, if you:
Are ready to realise who you are beyond the conditioning of society, your parents, and self-imposed limiting beliefs.
Have a deep desire to approach life with an open, undefended heart.
Feel stuck or stagnant and want to live a more fulfilling life that's aligned with your purpose.
Have had enough of immature toxic masculinity and are ready to shift that paradigm by healing yourself first.
Are looking for an adventure away from the 9-5 life to enjoy the freedom and space of the Dorset countryside.
Seek to feel at peace and at ease within yourself, leading to more authentic relationships.
Are open to learning simple practices to feel more powerful, alive, and in love with life.
the VENUE
In the heart of Dorset
meet your teacher
Alexander Cottle
FOUNDER, COACH & LEAD FACILITATOR
Alexander Cottle
Alexander Cottle is a leading voice in modern men’s work and the founder of The Unmasked Man. Known for his embodied, heart-led approach, he brings together over a decade of experience in somatic shadow work, Eastern philosophy, counselling, yoga, and meditation. His work is rooted in helping men move from the mind into the heart - from performance into presence.
Alexander specialises in teaching the embodied side of shadow work, guiding men to meet and integrate the parts of themselves they’ve hidden, suppressed, or feared. Through his grounded, compassionate facilitation, he’s supported hundreds of men to release shame, reclaim their power, and step into mature masculinity.
He is recognised for the depth and safety he creates - spaces where men can unravel, remember, and rebuild. His work is not about surface-level change. It’s about deep, embodied transformation that stays with you for life.
"Life-changing on so many levels, from how I view and treat myself to how I view and treat others." Alejandro
