LEVEL 2: THE PATH OF THE KING
INTEGRATING THE WOUNDED CHILD
26 - 29 Sep 2024, Dorset UK
The Path of the King... This is a four day journey to understand the deeper parts of your own masculine psyche and delve further into the work.
On this next step of the journey from The Unmasked Man we will explore the importance of fully integrating the King energy that sits within, which fully nourishes us and the people around us. It is time for us to walk as the open-hearted and powerful Kings we were born to be.
During our Level 1 - Boy to King retreat* men discover their King energy and realise how powerful they are. They also find a deep and profound connection to other men. However, maintaining this newly found awareness can be challenging in everyday life. Our Level 2 retreat is focused on developing a greater understanding of how the wounded inner child may be consciously or unconsciously steering the ship, preventing total embodiment of the King energy.
Is there a part of you that still feels ‘not good enough’, unmotivated or reacts in a destructive way to situations?
This may be your wounded inner boy that has been put into shadow and not been guided, supported and fully integrated into your adult self. On this retreat we begin to integrate the wounded boy and uncover what it means to truly walk the path of the King.
How do we begin to integrate the wounded boy?
The retreat is carefully curated to help men gain clarity, knowledge and deep emotional and physical healing within 4 areas that have caused many men a great deal of pain and suffering:
The Mother Wound
The Father Wound
The Good/Nice Guy
RETREAT LEVEL 2 - THE PATH OF THE KING
THE MOTHER WOUND
Creating a healthy relationship with our mother is very important, even if she is no longer present in our lives. Your mother may have been, or still is, emotionally and physically distant.
Perhaps she left you as a child and went back to work or perhaps her focus was on other things, such as running the home or looking after siblings.
Other mothers can be possessive and care too much for the little child, being overbearing and controlling. Mothers with their own unmet needs might use the child to make themselves happy or feel loved.
Depending on our attachment and relationship with our mother, we may grow up creating power games with partners in a desperate attempt for our inner boy to gain some degree of control or safety. Or we may remain distant from our partners, fearful of deeper connection.
Robert Bly suggests that to be liberated from an unhealthy attachment with our mother we must
“steal the key from under our mother’s pillow” thus severing the umbilical cord and
unlocking our own unique power.
THE FATHER WOUND
“A man must love his father and yet be free of his father's expectations and criticisms in order to
be a free man”. - David Deida
Healing the relationship with our father is essential in our own masculine growth. “Getting hit by the axe” describes the first time a man feels his father’s anger and how this can shape the rest of his life.
Perhaps your father was unable to show you the affection, love and emotional understanding that your younger self needed in times of difficulty. Perhaps your father rejected or abandoned you. These wounds can still affect our lives today unless they are healed.
THE GOOD/NICE GUY
Many men have the Good/Nice Guy complex - also known as the ‘people pleaser’. This is the man that creates covert contracts and needs to be liked.
This stems from a wound of not feeling good enough as a child and results in overcompensating as an adult. This however comes at the expense of their own well-being; by putting others first they neglect themselves.
The nice guy quickly turns angry and leaks his anger onto his partner, children and other relationships in his life. He has weak boundaries and is not aware it is okay to have needs of his own. Perhaps this man lacks hobbies, his main priority is often his work.
He will not speak up in times of need when it comes to himself. He may become a doormat to be walked over by friends, family, colleagues and is continually ‘friend-zoned’ by potential partners.
We look at how developing the archetype of the Warrior can create healthy boundaries and the ability to speak one’s truth, remedying the grip of the Good/Nice Guy.
SEXUALITY & ADDICTION
Childhood beliefs, cultural conditioning and sexual trauma at a young age are just a few of the ways in which our relationship to our bodies and sexuality can be damaged. This can lead to issues such as sexual shame, embarrassment, body dysmorphia, impotence, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, PTSD and more.
Workshops, sharing circles and discussions allow us to open up freely and develop a new relationship to these areas that may have been put in shadow. It is incredibly healing to know there are other men that have experienced the same.
The programme will also weave in the four great masculine archetypes throughout - King, Warrior, Lover and Magician - and their opposing inflated and deflated shadows. This is explored in much more depth in our Level 1 - Boy to King - Discover the Masculine Archetypes retreat*.
*IMPORTANT TO NOTE - You do not have to take LVL 1 before completing LVL 2.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
Men who are ready to realise who they are beyond the conditioning of society, parents, friends and self imposed limiting beliefs
Men who have a deep desire to approach life with an open, undefended heart
Men who feel stuck, stagnant and longing to live a more fulfilling life in alignment with their deepest gifts and purpose
Men who have had enough of seeing how immature toxic masculinity has created so much pain and confusion in the world, and are looking to shift that paradigm by healing themselves first
Men that want to have an adventure away from the busyness of the 9-5 life and enjoy the freedom and space of the Dorset countryside
Men that want to feel at peace, and at ease within themselves, leading to more authentic relationships with everyone around them
Men that want to learn techniques and simple practices to feel powerful, alive and in love with life
WHAT YOU WILL RECIEVE
A guided journey into the path of the king
We will be leaving our watches behind and diving into our hearts
4 Days, 3 nights accommodation (3pm Opening Thursday afternoon. 4pm closing Sunday afternoon)
Delicious meals each day
Meditation, breath-work & movement
Tools to harness and embody your archetypes when you leave
A follow up zoom group check-in call
A beautiful connection with nature in the Dorset countryside
Daily ice baths
Hot tub, infrared sauna, indoor swimming pool & fire pit
Bath and hand towels are provided, we ask guests to provide their own pool towels
All matts and bolsters provided
*Please note this a drug and alcohol free space.