• READY to Step up and own your projections?

  • READY to guide other men? 

  • READY to create brotherhood globally?

  • READY to be your most authentic self?

  • READY to finally be seen?


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." 

Marianne Williamson

On this personal one to one 3 month training I will guide you to become a facilitator of men. I will give you the opportunity to step up, to lead and to hold space. I will teach you the skills and tools needed to hold a compassionate, open, loving and truly vulnerable space.


My aim is to fully empower you with the knowledge to help men be guided safely.

To also stand up and own their shadow, their light and embody their full power.





This training is for men who are committed to their own journey of personal growth, and are ready to hold space for others to awaken to their power and true nature.

This journey has been designed for you to learn and practice a wide range of skills and techniques, form your own brotherhood and become integrated into the Unmasked Man Globally.



The lover is alive with life! He is compassionate, loving, nurturing and romantic. His energy for life is infectious. He feels connected to the world, nature and his purpose. The lover archetype is a man’s source of meaning and spirituality. He’s the dreamer and is highly empathetic. He’s the man who cares for his family and feels for strangers. He loves his partner, holds space as a father, listens, adores and cares. He is passionate, sensual and erotic and treats women with respect and love. The lover in his fulness is sensitive, playful and comfortable in his own body. A loving man in his divine “lover” energy is a symbol of life force itself.



Shadow Sides of the Lover/not in his fulness - The Addicted Lover & The Impotent Lover


Together we will start to explore all aspects of the Lover energy. Helping ourselves and others to free themselves from guilt and shame around sexuality. We will rewire our conditioning in order to experience that VULNERABILITY IS POWER.




The warrior energy is one of the most important archetypes but he is also one of the most misunderstood. This is mainly due to the shadow side of the Warrior that has caused so much suffering throughout history. 


A true Warrior in his fulness has self control and discipline. He is the samurai who knows when to wield his sword, but also as importantly when to holster it. Many men do not know how to safely access their warrior energy in todays society. In his full expression he is loyal, precise, patient, controlled, disciplined and self mastered. He has strong boundaries and acts decisively. The warrior can be a destructive force. But it’s a destructive force for good, to cut through the illusions of the mind and seek the truth. He destroys only what he needs to in order for something beautiful to grow and blossom. When combined with the other archetypes, something magnificent can emerge. If the warrior and magician combines, then one can develop a strong spiritual practice.


Shadow Sides of the Warrior/not in his fulness - The Sadist & The Masochist.

Together we will start to explore all aspects of harnessing a healthy Warrior energy, helping men confront and deal with their anger without shame or zealous chaos and destruction.




The magician is both the wise man and the scientist. He is the professor, the shaman, the inventor, the doctor and the knower. With his intuition and deep awareness he understands the universe, the stars and his place in it. In his fulness he is the guiding principle for driving civilisation forward in a healthy way. As an elder his wisdom and knowledge is passed down to others, guiding and initiating boys to men and lead to gold. He has a strong bull-shit detector, sifting through the lies and the illusions of others.The magician recognizes that the reality you see is just the tip of the iceberg. That there’s a subterranean world below and he has full access to it. 


Shadow Sides of the Magician/not in his fulness - The Detached Manipulator & The Denying “innocent One”

Together we will start to explore all aspects of harnessing a healthy Magician, helping men discover their inner world and becoming aware of our internal shadows.


Finally we come to the KING.


The Archetype of the King Energy is the source of order in the kingdom. A just King is noble, wise and asks for help. He listens, guides, supports and nourishes. From here his kingdom can prosper and flourish. The king energy accepts everyone around his table, he is loving and forgiving, he welcomes all parts of his psyche without shame or guilt. Helping him grow into maturity so to identify and befriend parts of himself that he may have condemned or cut off. He essentially becomes integrated.


The King is the harmonizing principle, the subjugator of chaos, the uniter of opposites.


Shadow Sides of the King/not in his fulness - Tyrant King and The Weakling Prince.

Together we will start to embody our KING energy. To rise up, to welcome all, to support, love, nourish, guide and harmonize.



Through this truthful and deep process you will undergo your own journey of self discovery and liberation. It is time to awaken and be honest and authentic with yourself. To become a space holder it all starts with us. Taking accountability and 'walking are talk'  Together we will look at what is holding you back from rising into your power and work through blocks that are currently preventing you from fully giving your expression to the world.



You will be initiated into the growing network of men around the world. You will be given online presence on the Unmasked Man website and support from myself and fellow Unmasked Man facilitators.



An additional option of the training is to set up and run your own circle with friends. This circle will run alongside the training (I will not be present in it) it is a space for you to naturally explore your style of facilitation and to step up and be seen as a man. Each week you I invite you to check in with myself and the group to update us on how it is going.

Here you will start to push yourself out of your comfort zone, and breath into any anxiety's of holding space. Through trial and error you can begin to teach and play with the tools we are learning each week. Experimenting with friends can give you that confidence to step up  become familiar with taking the floor.


"The Unmasked Man Project is a coming together of men throughout the world to openly share and grow in their evolution of what it is to be a man. It is a union, a bond and a brotherhood for men. To make the heroes journey from boyhood to king"



Alexander Cottle



WEEKS 1 - 4


We will start with YOU. Looking at the foundation. What makes you tick as a man, what areas in your life are there leakages of energy and how can with bring a conscious awareness to them.


+ ''Sadhana'' - Morning Practice & ‘’Tapas”” which means discipline in Sanskrit.

+ Taking charge of your Addictions - Porn Masturbation/sugar/purchasing/gambling/alcohol/drugs/neediness

+ Setting our intention & life goals - both short term and long term.

+ Why do you want to lead? What is your intention?

+ Long term vision, what do I want working with men?

+ Your comfort zone and how much do you live in it?

+ We will start to look at the 4 main Archetypes as a whole - King, Warrior, lover & Magician. 

+ The Father wound - ''Getting hit by the axe''

+ The Mother wound - ‘’The key lies underneath the mothers pillow” Iron John, Robert Bly.

+ Letting go, acceptance and forgiveness.

+ I will teach you both small and large exercises to navigate these topics.


WEEKS 5 - 8


Shadow Work - An in-depth analysis of the shadow and bi-polar sides of the four archetypes.


+ Shadow Lover - The Addicted Lover & The Impotent Lover 

+ Shadow Warrior -  The Sadist & The Masochist.

+ Shadow Magician -  The Detached Manipulator & The Denying “innocent One”

+ Shadow King - Tyrant King and The Weakling Prince.

+ Sexuality - & Connection with your partner

+ “The Psychology of Romantic Love"

+ Pain or anger towards the feminine.

+ Each week we will explore how these are playing out in your life and learn tools and process work to highlight these areas within a group setting.


WEEKS 9 - 12


Weeks 9 - 12 will consist of fully coming into your power. Of finding your inner voice, channeling the most authentic energy to lead and stepping up. We will also explore the importance of holding the men, non shaming and keeping a confidential container. 

+ Creating your own circle. 

+ The Talking stick

+ Brotherhood and the importance of having a strong network of men.

+ Non shaming, staying accountable.

+ Finding your voice

+ Breathing into the fear of stepping forward. 

+ Realising your inner power

+ How to hold a safe safe - confidentiality and ownership.

+ Self compassion, self love and celebration.

+ Leadership with Heart

+ Graduation Ceremony & initiation.

"This is more than just a training. It is a total life evolution. Reframing the way we currently act as men"




Alexander Cottle

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Alexander is a Yoga & Meditation teacher, Holistic coach and founder of the

‘Unmasked Man’ & ‘Unmasked Tribe’ setup to encourage sharing and create a voice for mental health.


  He is deeply passionate and dedicated to guiding men and women to step into their power and fulfil their potential. Leading through embodiment, Alexander has overcome many struggles on his journey, enabling him to hold space from an empathetic and relatable place. He believes that through true authenticity and vulnerability we can drop into a better relationship with ourselves and our bodies, creating a  compassionate and grounded approach to self healing and growth.


He has facilitated all over the world, including Thailand, India and Europe, as well as offering online private and group sessions.


Alexander has sat with 100's of men all over the world helping them to unmask, to shed light on the unconscious boy within themselves and to finally discover their true power they have hidden for too long.


  • 3 Months personal one to one training.

  • You will have weekly live Zoom 1 on 1 tuition calls with myself. (14 calls in total)

  • Calls will be 60mins

  • Group calls every 2 weeks for participants to explore feedback, learn tools and support one another.

  • Free entry into all future Unmasked Mans Circles.

  • Self Commitment to run your own circle outside of the training for the 3 months during.

  • Connection with a growing global network of men.

  • A presence on The Unmasked Man Website as a graduated Facilitator.

  • Support, tools, essential knowledge and guidance in starting your own circle.

  • WhatsApp Support & questions during the week.

  • Weekly homework and tasks

  • Weekly King’s stretches - challenges to push yourself further than your comfort zone.

  • Support around non ejaculation, commitment to motivating and harnessing your sexual energy. 

  • Reading lists of essential books to develop your practice.

  • Free Meditation exercises

  • Training Manuals and PDFs



  • Men that are ready to take the next step.

  • Men that have had a minimum experience of 1 year in mens work.

  • Men that want to create great change in their life and embody their teachings.

  • Men that ready to leave the superficial relating behind and become a leader.

  • Men that are ready to help others rise while staying grounded in their own process.


3 month Personal Training Programme

Starting Thursday 14th January 2021:


  • The training will commence on Friday January 22nd 2021 - As a collective group

  • Individual Personal calls will be schedule in accordance weekly to fit our diaries.

  • Your private circle will be held at a time of your choice.


  • Early Bird Price 2020: £1,850 (Until end of December)

  • Regular Price 2021: £2,250

* I appreciate and understand that price can be a barrier to some people participating. Payment plans are available. Please specify if you are applying for a low income place and outline your circumstances in the form on the next page.


To apply for the course please fill out the  form on the next page. Click 'APPLY NOW" below. 

Please answer all the questions. Once you have  been accepted you will be able to pay for your place or  alternatively speak with me to set up your payment plan.

Are you ready to create great change in your life and rise up to become a leader of men?


Mateusz Górecki

"For me, workshops with Alexander were a great space for deepening and stretching my understanding of masculinity.

 Authenticity is definitely his domain"


James Marriott 

"Alex’s commitment to personal development and for sharing his wisdom, love, time and experience with other men is truly commendable. You’d do well to sit with this man and learn with him"


Daniel Howard 

"The Unmasked Man did an incredible job creating a safe space and guiding the flow of our meetings. The result? A huge release, clarity on the path forward, and new friendships made. Thank You"

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