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  • What do you struggle with as a man?


  • Do you feel heard?


  • Do you lack trust or fear other men?

  • Do you have a safe space to be seen and allowed to express?

  • Are you fed up of the superficial relating that often society creates?

  • Are you living to your full power, are you afraid of it?


Mateusz Górecki

"For me, workshops with Alexander were great space for deepening and stretching my understanding of masculinity.

 Authenticity is definitely his domain"


James Marriott 

"Alexander’s commitment to personal development and for sharing his wisdom, love, time and experience with other men is truly commendable. You’d do well to sit with this man and learn with him"


Daniel Howard 

"Alexander did an incredible job creating a safe space and guiding the flow of our meetings. The result? A huge release, clarity on the path forward, and new friendships made. Thank You"

Men... Do you find yourself wanting to express deeper emotions around your partner, friends and family but do not feel like you are able to do it without being judged or simply that they won’t understand you?


Do you have emotions that need venting but no safe space to do it?


Do you find yourself lacking connection? … Want to truly be seen without judgement?


Traditional masculinity *cough* … toxic masculinity doesn’t allow for open expression of emotion. And sadly to say it is the accepted way of relating to each other in the west. And if you’re reading this, most likely the

Masculinity you grew up with.


And the likelihood is that because the world is in its infancy, you still interact with this on a regular basis.


I believe we are shifting to a more harmonious masculinity as a planet. One, that is stronger by being authentic, vulnerable and open to emotion.


This is what the Unmasked Man represents.


Brotherhood in the true sense, sharing, opening to our deepest wounds in a group setting and realising that the man opposite you actually shares the same fears.


Below I offer you the opportunity to join one of our 6 week online Men's Circle.

Gathering Men from all over the world, we will meet each week via Zoom to connect and forge great friendships in truth, depth and realness.

There are no space for masks, just authenticity and realness.

What is the Unmasked Man?

The Unmasked Man Project is a coming together of men throughout the world to openly share and grow in their evolution of what it is to be a man.


It is a union, a bond and a brotherhood for men to make the journey from boyhood to king. 



Who am I?

My name is Alexander. I have sat with 100's of men all over the world helping them to unmask the man within. To shed light on the unconscious boy within themselves and to finally discover their true power they have hidden for too long.

I run both weekly in person circles

and online global circle's which you can join below. Find out more about me here.

Some of the greatest personal shifts and transformations I have experienced have been found in Men's work. 

Learning to show up, learning to be accountable, dissolving the old stereotype of what is is to be a man and exploring our shadow.

Our Online's Men Circles



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Starts Thursday 3rd December

 7pm - 9.30pm GMT+1

6 Week Commitment - 9 men Total.


£79(per person)


Starts Tuesday 10th November

10am-12.30am GMT+1

6 Week Commitment - 9 men Total. 


£79(per person)



We end our journey together with a powerful day dedicated to inner integration and outer celebration. Today we will look at how to integrate all you have learned and experienced. 

We will work with accountability and the maintenance of daily-practice with healthy boundaries and self-reflection.

In the afternoon and evening, we enter a more ceremonial and healing space to honor the sacredness of life. We shall celebrate life with a deep healing ritual. In the evening we will re-unite with the feminine universe in a deep Shiva-Shakti ritual focused on forgiveness and devotion.

Empowerment only comes with a deep sense of alignment with what we hold as truth in our hearts. Empowerment comes from clearing emotional charges, uncovering how we created our shadows and learning how to offer ourselves support. This can be done at best with a stable connection with the universe within us.



  • 6 Week Programmes

  • £79 per person

  • Meet each week on Zoom

  • 2.5 hrs sessions per week.

  • Commitment of 6 weeks required

  • Start Dates vary see here.

  • Application process required.

What you can expect from the 6 weeks? 


  • Redefine what true masculinity is through experience and sharing.

  • Forge bonds, friendships and brotherhood with Men all over the world.

  • Create a new and healthy direction in you life.

  • Create a deeper understanding of what it is to be a MAN.

  • Have a support network to help you show up and keep in your integrity.

  • Share your problems and feelings openly and realise you are not alone.

  • A safe space where Men can openly share and authentically connect to themselves and their emotions.

  • Helping us as Men, learn to grow, show up, keep in our integrity and stand accountable for our actions.

The 6 week circle's is limited to 8 spaces. If you are interested in applying for a space please fill out the questionnaire here.


  • The Circles are a total of 6 weeks. 

  • Sessions will last 2.5hrs

  • Exact meetings times will be confirmed ahead of schedule for each circle.

  • This is about staying in accountability and showing up for the whole 6 weeks. 

Pricing for the 6 week course is £79

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Join an online mens circle today


Matt Rehberg

"I have participated in Alexander's Men's Circle several times and I am always impressed. He makes sure that all men open up and feel good the first time they meet.


His empathy and leadership are incredible. I can only recommend everyone to participate in a Men's Circle."


Zen Kahlert

"Alexander is a great facilitator who truly practices what he teaches. Since doing a 4 week mens group I can truly say I have developed as a man and have become a better and more integrated version of myself. I have shed many layers and was seen and supported by a wonderful group of men. Not only did it highlight some of my strengths and shadows it held me accountable for what I would say and became the day in the week I would look forward to the most."


Jamie Wrate

'Alexander Cottle holds a beautiful, big-hearted and grounded space. Deeply rooted in authenticity and Alexander leads courageously by example.


Also a space of joy and lightness - wholeheartedly recommended!'

Jamie Wrate

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Join an online mens circle today


For three weeks after the retreat, we are offering the possibility of a

weekly men's circle online. We will come together again in the virtual space to re-connect and share and work on self-accountability. 




  • 8h00 Dynamic Meditation

  • 9h00 Breakfast 

  • 10h00 Lecture

  • 11h00 Practices

  • 13h00 Lunch

  • 15h00 Sharing in Pods

  • 16h00 Lecture 

  • 17h00 Practices

  • 19h00 Day ends



  • One of the things most missing on the planet is healthy Men

  • This event is for those ready to meet the challenge.

  • Men ready to simply step up.

  • Men ready to let go of cultural conditioning

  • Men willing to open up to vulnerability

  • Men willing to integrate their own feminine





  • To own your own projections

  • To Learn to face your shadows

  • To develop more emotional Awareness

  • To be heard without judgment 

  • To learn how to deal with addictions

  • To be initiated into Mature Masculinity

  • To experience Authentic Brotherhood

  • To Learn not to give your power away

  • To Integrate masculine and feminine

  • To overcome emotional blocks



  • Masculine Presence

  • Finding Purpose

  • Workouts and Meditations

  • Rites of passage

  • Emotional Awareness

  • Emotional Release

  • Hero's journey